Vikingcat, I don't know if his friend getting a DUI would be a wake-up call for your AH. I do know that my niece, my AXH's sister's daughter whom he doted on, drove drunk and wrapped her car around a tree. She nearly died. She was ordered to treatment and there were other legal ramifications, too. It had no effect on AXH. There was no a-ha moment for him; no, "Hey, my niece is an alcoholic who got a DUI and nearly died. Maybe I need help with my drinking, too."