Wow, sorry beachy, sounds like perhaps you need a new therapist? We don't always respond perfectly as was stated above, but as long as you said what you needed to say for yourself - it doesn't matter because she will hear what she wants to hear anyway. When I went NC I used all the right words, not sure how or why, but all that I love you and can't stand to watch you kill yourself blather came out of me, and it wouldn't have mattered. She has "no idea" why I won't call her. So it might have been actually better to tell her the truth, that I am distancing myself from addiction - in fact, would have been better if I told her the exact thing you said to your mom. If she even heard it. She tried to get at me through my kids too, and even though my kids are grown it threw them off and upset them and I told them to ignore her. Harder in your situation, sounds like you're doing the best you can and that your best is pretty damn good.
