Originally Posted by heartcore

Tuitui - Everybody else doesn't "deal with this!" Many people use alcohol and drugs to process new jobs and break-ups with boyfriends. Other folks use random sex, sleep, spending, video games, compulsivity, and/or staying in a crap relationship to avoid their feelings.

You know exactly what you need to do to healthily self-nurture through this time. Vitamins, sobriety, rest, stupid tv, sober-recovery wisdom and support - for the first few weeks, so you can get your feet back under you. Then yoga and movement and opening back out to the world, as you are ready.

Let go of the "I can't." You absolutely can. It is ok to be uncomfortable! It is ok to be sad at the loss of the hopeful fantasy of what the relationship might have been. It is ok that a new job triggers anxiety. That is all absolutely normal.

Is this the easiest time in your life to quit drinking? Maybe not, but there's NEVER an easy or right time! You just made the massive step of ending the relationship, a relationship which was sabotaging your sobriety. You are in a new workplace where you don't already have an identity as the hard-partier. This might actually be a perfect time in your life to throw down!

You are already uncomfortable and miserable - why not combine that with those first couple of uncomfortable and miserable weeks of quitting alcohol? Get it all over with at once! Build your cocoon, curl up inside yourself, then emerge a few weeks from now with your colorful wings unfurled - sober, strong, radiant!!