Sounds like you're smitten (obsessed?) with the drama and witchiness of her, rather than her herself, as the general person she is underneath it all.
Drama and objectification sound pretty much like AV driving you to me.
Maybe stop looking for the devil, and start listening out for your own AV.
Hope it all works out well, one way or another. But as Dee said - maybe get a plan together in case it all goes pear-shaped.