Hopeful, I understand what you are saying, but when a person has a disability, such as a nonverbal learning disability (verbal IQ greater than 10 points higher than nonverbal IQ) which impairs the ability to foresee consequences and to have normal executive function, etc., like B has, then what kind of help is "tough love"? This is what I struggle with as I am a firm believer in from each according to his means and to each according to his needs.