Struggling
I went NC with my mom a month ago, then she began texting my 12 year old trying to get invited to her upcoming birthday. I had to text her to ask her to stop putting my daughter in the middle. I then told her that I was protecting my family from her drug/alcohol use and I thought I was doing what is best for everyone by letting go so she can live in her own way. I felt OK about the way I handled it, but afterward my therapist said I might have told her how much I love her and that it's too hard watching her hurt herself. Now I'm second guessing my words and wondering if I should contact my mother again or just let it be. Also, I miss her a lot and know that we would have a relationship if I talk to her, but she has said she is not going to get help and we may end up in this same place in the future. I have very few people in my life and feel lonely without her. Any words of wisdom?