I like the analogy of a nut allergy, if I couldn't eat nuts, would I view it the same way, struggle when others eat nuts, think I'm missing out, try to moderate my nut intake, try to push a square peg into a round hole, risk dying over one nut?!!
Or would I listen to my Dr and accept that nuts and me simply are not compatible?!!
I'd probably do the later, so why is alcohol any different, in my mind I square it the same way, I am incompatible with alcohol and so I go my separate ways, in the same way many other people do with many other allergies!!