i agree
thank you for your response. it is so appreciated especially since i feel so alone in this. i know im not but when you dont know anyone who has been through this except for you and your own family it makes it so hard.
I can assure you that i will call the police if another physical altercation happens. when it happened i was in so much shock and my parents were so upset that i decided not to but looking back i probably should have.
i am working on establishing boundaries and i need to solidify them before i have kids of my own. I will not subject my children to seeing their uncle in the condition that he is in.
basically what i am seeking is solace in knowing that it is OK for me to disengage myself from any contact with him. i have so much guilt because i feel like i am abandoning my parents in doing this..especially since he lives with them most of the time. so in a sense it means severing most contact with my parents.