Hey Hickdusty,
I feel really bad that you are being ganged up on -- being a new member and all.
I just want to say that my advice to find a good attorney was to help you get your life under control whilst you get sober. I have never, ever, ever driven drunk or even with a small amount of alcohol. I find it utterly selfish and an abhorrent behavior. My mother was rear-ended on the 405 (in LA) during rush hour by a day-drunk driver. She was badly injured and had head injuries that resulted in debilitating migraines for over a decade. Her car flipped; not sideways, but from back to front. The woman got off scot-free even though the witnesses and the first responding officer stated that she reeked of alcohol. It still pisses me off to this day.
Okay -- so now that that is out of the way. I am really sorry that you are going through this. I am sure you have had a lot of time to think about how foolish and selfish you behaved. The one thing I don't understand about many individual cases of DUI legal consequences is that sometimes the punishment does not fit the crime. Losing your licence? Yes, that is appropriate. Jail time? I am not sure about that. How will that help you solve/improve your very urgent problem so that you never, ever do something like that again?
Whoever said that your behavior post-crash was classic alcoholic behavior is spot on. If I were you, I would nip that in the bud. If you get away without legal consequences (it sounds like you have experienced many natural consequences), you should make sure you never drive drunk again. Like most alcoholics, it will raise your level of what you find to be an acceptable risk and you might continue to drive drunk. I am an alcoholic and could guarantee you that if I did that even once, I would do it again.
You need to get an attorney, go to the doctor, take care of your daughter and stop drinking for good. If I were you, I would proactively install an ignition interlock device so that you are assured to never repeat the same mistake and also take meaningful action during your first sober steps.
I am sorry to hear that you lost your father. You are dealing with a lot right now, I am sure. Please take care of yourself and others.