lucy......of this I am certain. (I divorced the narcissistic father of my three children....and, he wasn't even a drinker lol!
With a narcissist---you play hard ball---always! You don't ever let them see you sweat (they smell fear and thrive on it), and you never....NEVER....make the mistake of playing "nice guy" because you have some altruistic idea that it will be rewarded in some way. It will work against you, with a narcissist. You will get no extra stars in heaven, let me tell you.....lol!
My best advice---get a tough, straight talking lawyer.....and let him/her do all the talking.
If you are dealing with a narcissist....whatever you pay your lawyer will be more than worth it.
My advice for the future---you need to start growing a very thick rhino skin.........
dandylion
P.S. If you doubt me and would like to see some of my battle scars---I will be happy to supply photos uon request....