hello, I was reading your story and can't help but feel total understanding , however , enabling your son is doing nothing but bad to him! He will never be able to stand on his own 2 feet. I detached in love with my bf and he is living at home as well. His parents are enablers and part of the problem, to me they are the biggest problem because he will never get help or change his life by being allowed to stay there and to continue doing what he is. I will never understand this. Maybe your husband reads this note I am typing or show it to him. He is wrong wrong wrong! and until he sees this your son will never make a step towards living his life on his own they way it should be and make healthy coices and changes. God Bless you!