You may wish to consider the clique from the other side The people I am friends with I've known for years and I consider them to be some of the finest people in the world.
They were there for me when my daughter died and I have been there for them during divorce, eviction, death, new life, illness cancer, and all the joys and sorrows life throws at us.
These are people that have earned my trust and friendship. We have history and a lot of it. These are people I can call at 2 in the morning and say I need help and they will be there for me no questions asked.
I am always very welcoming to people that are new and am inclusive but the sad reality is most return to drinking as soon as they start feeling better.
Friendship, trust, and respect are things that are earned and not things that are rights.