Originally Posted by Kkgrace

I am a recovering alcoholic with almost 8 years of sobriety. My husband is an active alcoholic who is a binge drinker and is in denial. We have 2 young kids as well. I am attending both AA and al anon meetings and have begun setting some boundaries as it relates to his drinking which seems to be helping my sanity. So I scheduled a date night tomorrow night for us as I am still very committed to the marriage. However he is binge drinking again tonight and I want to cancel the date. I can't decide if I am acting irrationally or not. It's no surprise that he is drinking tonight so I anticipated that would happen in spite of scheduling the date. I am very codependent and am still working on putting my needs first. But sometimes I don't know what those are because I have been so used to putting others first.