Originally Posted by
CodeJob 
There was a moment in my marriage to my A that I realized if I wanted to do something or I wanted my child to experience something, it was up to me. That was freeing for awhile and helped me detach. But then I started thinking, why am I even with him? Date night is probably the least of your problems and I'm sorry for it.
I did this as well. Even in my first marriage (not to an A), I thought why would I stay married if I'm going to be alone all of the time. If I'm married and alone, there is not hope or potential not to be alone. But if I'm single and alone, there is at least the hope and potential not to have to be alone.