Kkgrace....to my way of thinking....to go on a "date" with someone who is in in the middle of a binge would be "Irrational". It is a waste of time to even hold a conversation with someone who is drunk...much less have a date...lol!lol!
dandylion
You say that you don't know what your needs are. I have found that my needs become immediately more clear if I make a list of my fears......(there is a connection...).
It can be a bit dicey to list one's fears....honestly.....as we tend to lie (denial) to ourselves about our worst fears, also......
LOL......this is why having support people to help us through this is so important....