Thank you everybody, it's been really helpful to read similar stories and see that I'm not just over-reacting and being silly, especially since I don't really have anyone else to talk about it to. In fact we were planning on moving in together soon and I was confused as to why I felt half happy, half scared - realising that this is as good as it's getting without some help has made me think it's best to postpone it until he's getting some help. He has agreed to go to a meeting and I suppose we'll see if that was to make me drop it or if he really wants it. I've looked up Al-Anon - unfortunately I live in an area with a lot of alcohol problems which means there about twenty places within half an hour of my house... Again, thank you, this has been very enlightening.