Originally Posted by
Wilderness 
I read that you are supposed to accept it and keep living your life...How do you do that?
Do you mean as in "keep on living with him"? I don't know that ANYONE here would tell you that you're "supposed to" stay w/an active A unless YOU determine that's what you want to do. You have every right to a healthy peaceful life and every right to do whatever it takes in order to get that for yourself and your kids.
It is often said here that "high functioning" is not a TYPE of A, it's a STAGE. And they're high-functioning until they're not--alcoholism is a progressive disease, and it WILL get worse as time goes on.
There are online and phone Alanon meetings if you'd care to check into that. And we are always here at SR--do as much reading as you can, making sure not to miss the stickies at the top of the page, and I think you'll learn a lot.
As far as help in making ends meet, I'll leave that type of suggestion to those here who know more about what kind of resources might be available to you.
Keep coming back--others have made it and you can too!