Anyone who stayed with AH....
I'm trying to get the hang of detaching but am having a real problem with the "with love" part. I know some of it is my own anger and resentment (past and present). But there is also the absence of respect and trust. Some family issues the last week have really magnified to me that I have lost my respect for AH and don't trust him even outside the drinking (full disclosure: to my knowledge hes never cheated but has told some pretty big lies I've only recently discovered).
How do you reconcile being with someone you can't respect or trust? I've promised myself I won't make any big decisions until fall unlesss forced but I find myself constantly struggling with this aspect. Thanks for listening.