Thanks to all who suggested I go to a meeting, I just went to one during lunch time and was able to share a problem.
For self care, what works for me is spending time with family, therapy, pampering, and baby time. I'll get all of these activities in this week. I want to challenge myself to go to the rest of the lunchtime meetings (they are MWF) that are scheduled between now and when I move.
I am moving with my baby several states away to be close to my parents. We were supposed to move as a family but the addict has made no plans to join us. I want to tell him that he is welcome to be with us when he is clean.
Good points above, I have never noticed the addict taking responsibility for what he has done - - all i get are these ramblings about what he is going to do in the future.
Two things I heard today that I found useful:
1. Live according to what I have today, as things are
2. Whatever the addict puts before recovery, he is going to lose (from an addict)
Thanks for the push to go to a meeting. Not a cure all, but an important step in the right direction.