Lots of addicts use "meetings" as a diversion. Like they use "work" or "family" as a diversion.
We can't know. We just know if it feels ok to us. If we are wrong, it is not our fault for being placed in the situation to judge. If we are wrong, we may or may not hVe the chance to apologize. It's not our fault we were in that position in the first place. It is our fault if we stay in a coda circus they demAnd to direct.