You don't have to isolate yourself and not everyone drinks. Why not initiate some of these activities, sober, with people you trust not to go out of their way to get hammered? A movie and ice cream? Dinner and then coffee and dessert?
You kind of pointed up your dilemma in your post. Some of your friends aren't calling because they know you. Will drink and drive. How about calling them for some non alcoholic fun?
I was going to attend an AA sponsored dance this evening but I'm sick and im disappointed that im missing it. AA people aren't just a bunch of drunks. Two of my close friends are members whom I met through meetings and we clicked. One has 8 years and the other 13. And they're not boring.