Dear Pipping and all,
Thanks for your experienced comments. I have been wrestling with this for a long time and still am. My friend also says you better get married before I die and that bothered me too. I am so sensitive to people that I have a lot of my own stuff to deal with.
She feels that she takes credit for my relationship with my mate as I confided into her about my interest in him but was shy to ask him out for lunch. She encouraged me to take a chance and go for it.
What I find interesting and notice about her is that she does have so much strength for areas in her life but likes her wine and when I do hear from her on the phone there is a lot of chaotic drama like police and volatile behaviours which I don't like and cannot handle.
I see that pattern and picking fights and volatile behaviour Pipping. I like my friend at a distance.