He is working his steps with his sponsor. He is on the fourth step, but it is not for me to judge. Based on everything else, I think that he is going through the motions of what he is "supposed" to do.
I am so new to this. I am also doing my own trauma recovery work from my marriage so it is just so difficult to be in a relationship where I am being torn down as I try to build myself up.
I think that is why I have turned to this site. I don't want to give up on him if he is doing what he is supposed to be doing and if these phases are normal. But I also can't sacrifice myself with someone who uses recovery as an excuse for bad behavior.