Wow - many thanks to those who were so quick to reply... and apologies for the frustration. (I did try to edit, but there us a time limit)
Della, no diagnosis here, just FEEL old and have some family history of terminal illnesses - but I am fine. I have less expectancy though relative to my young son - the point I wanted to make.
I hope she wants to change soon, because I am not ready to wait any longer. I don't know what, if anything, I can do to that end, but I can tell you I don't want her ruining any more lives than her own with this!