Thank you. I needed this thread. I finally went No contact with my mom and dad, after my AM was on yet another bender last week and my father continues to enable her. We all have just looked the other way and cleaned up her messes for years and I am just fed up with it. She has never suffered any real consequences for her actions in terms of her closest relationships and I am just DONE. I am not going NC in hopes that this will wake her up. I am truly doing it for myself. That being said, the way I have behaved with her my entire life hasn't worked for either of us and I am tired of doing the definition of insanity.