There is such an entitlement with our addicted children. I know my son expects me to run to his rescue and he is very good at playing victim. I pray that he actually works the steps and gets clarity as to the accountability for his own actions. I too should be accountable, and I remind him of the disaster of living with me, I am enabling and vulnerable and he is guilt ridden and vulnerable. To clarify, the guilt he feels is the past of his actions in our home. Then he uses, and the guilt is no longer a factor until he gets sober again.