Originally Posted by
Pouncer 
I second and third the notion that it isn't willpower you are lacking. I thought that I was relapsing because I was lacking willpower, too. It was a relief to find out that it was much simpler than that. I was lacking tools.)
This. Yes. I believe that once we figure out *why* we were drinking, then we can figure out strategies to replace the alcohol. The tools. I drank because of anxiety, then had anxiety because of the drinking. I'm still looking for ways of coping with the daily onslaught of this kind of emotion, and am slowly finding the right tools. Drinking can't be an option. It only makes my life worse. The *why* is always a complex thing. Many whys, many tools.