Pouncer, keep your chin up. By deciding not to drink you've not only taken the reins, you're keeping them. I remember that in an earlier post you mentioned that you had said some hurtful things to your husband. I wonder if next time you talk to him you could make it clearer to him that you're hurt by the things he does just the same. I'm not saying that you were necessarily justified in purposely hurting his feelings. However, maybe it can drive the point home for him that he's caused you pain too.