Porn, i am so over it. I no longer get pissed about it. My AH and his friends, co-workers, not all, exchange porn pictures, graphic (like the stuff you find on the internet).
I have asked my AH why he and his friends send porn to each other and i told him it makes me feel uncomfortable. I can't remember exactly what he said, but 'he didn't do it.' whatever....
My AH has not grown up and I can not control what my H and his 'weird' friends do. If they want to act like kids and show each other 'a video of a hot chick....man she's hot', blah blah blah..., I have more important things to occupy my time with.
Now granted, 'guys will be guys' in the aspect of sending each other porn/links, but there has to be a limit. Pouncer, it sounds like your H crossed that line. Sorry you are feeling hurt. Don't do anything haste in your early sobriety. Hair sounds interesting... very good you did not drink.