Originally Posted by
SpiritOfDjinn 
Man... This ^^^ sounds terrible, but I admire your commitment to your marriage. Not many people can make it through things like this. I hope that eventually you can get through to him.
I can tell you this, I got wrapped up in the porn scene once myself. My wife just told me flat out, "your use of this crap makes me feel ugly and unwanted and that hurts, deeply." It was a huge wake up call for me. I love her more than anything and was mortified that I'd made her feel that way.
I hope he comes around.
Djinn,
I have gone through what you describe at least 4 times. Of course it makes me feel ugly. And unwanted. And self-conscious. Do you mean you actually stopped? SA has such a low rate of recovery, lower than alcohol or heroin addition.
We have been in crisis mode at least 4 times. I am tired of it. I am going to take some time to think about it, but right now, I am looking at legal separation.