worriedwelshy

Here is my current situation:
My husband drinks every weekend. All three nights and can fluctuate in amounts. The usual amount is 1 liter of vodka an evening. He drinks at home whist watching sport and talking to his friend online.It seems he needs allot more than your average Joe to satisfy his alcohol needs and refuses to go out because it would be too expensive to buy alcohol. When we do go out he will only take part if there is a pub and will drink pints then finish the night with double shoots of vodka before leaving. He is happy to go out early morning with me on the weekend but its not enjoyable because I always feel hes clock watching to get back before midday, so he doesn't waste his day. He's been drinking excessively like this for about 10 years and I'm worried how long this can continue for.

He makes a massive fuss when he doesn't drink or drinks less, like he should be rewarded for not hitting the bottle. I can count on one hand the amount of weekends he has been dry in the last 3 years. The excuses for drinking ranges from I drink because I'm busy and he's lonely (he used to encourage me to go and visit my mum for the weekend or I was busy applying for jobs) to this is what most people are doing. I have been blamed for wanting to change him, but the issues I have is that he will sit down at the computer all weekend and drink. Once he was so drunk he left the gas hob on over night. luckily it was summer and i smelt the gas. I cant even string a sentence together at times and forgets what he has done or is doing.

I have spoken to him about it and pointed out that its an issue which will will ruin his health, financially and with relationships. He turns my concern back on me by getting defensive or points out I'm no one to judge and I should sort myself out first before passing judgment and he can afford to drink (I have been made redundant a few years ago and since found it difficult to get a permanent job ). He doesn't care about the damaging side effects and claims he will be dead by 40 (he is 34 now) and he should make the most of it now.

He has only admitted twice that he has a problem. Once, morning after he got very drunk, he was really ill, sick etc... He admitted that he had to stop and needed help. And, the second time was whilst he was drunk. Since he has admitted I have attempted to broach the subject but he denies saying it. Iv'e attempted to ask him why he drinks but he changes the subject. During a heated argument with him when he was drunk he told me he does it because he loves it!

I think he is an alcoholic and its only his work stopping from doing it full time.

Can anybody give me some advise on how to move forward?