I`ve never had a sponsor and took a cafeteria style approach to the steps. The most important piece of advice I got was from member with over 30 years. I asked him early in sobriety what was the "secret" of staying sober? He told me those who stay sober are those who appreciate their sobriety. I found this to be quite true.
I`ve been a member of AA for over 20 years but have learned to be careful sharing my story. My story often flies in the face of what many members hold dear which is only by having a sponsor and working the steps can one truly recovery.
All said and done everything depends on the vibe of the AA meetings you attend.