I seem to have given the impression that I started and have continued this thread in order to be provocative. I can't imagine ever doing that on this forum. You can look back at every thread I've ever started, and not find anything posted purely for the sake of provocation.
I do not wish for myself or anyone else to be riled up over what started as a few sincere & simple questions. I appreciate the responses that Boleo, Carlotta, esinger and others have given, and hope others will continue this discussion.
I think it's important that people contemplating recovery options and their families understand what they are paying for when they pay for inpatient treatment, and what to expect -- a break, a rest, a change, safety -- and what not to expect -- a cure. In particular, as Carlotta just brought up, because those in situations where that kind of respite is most needed may have the greatest difficulty achieving it.
I'm just a little upset now but my friend has made it to Base Camp from Camp 1 on Everest so I will bow out, again, with this: