ScubaDad: I read your posting/story today and my heart just breaks for you. It sounds like you did the best you could for you, your children and your wife at the time. You don't have a crystal ball that would predict the future (wish we had one of those). It makes me sick in my stomach to think of what she is saying/doing with your children when you are not there...I hope she is not talking bad about you to them...that only hurts the kids...