part of my problem was that i was an overachieving , perfectionist who was very self critical .
I try to bring the spirit of recovery into all areas of my life , trying to find balance between work and rest is important for instance .
After getting sober i shot for the stars career wise. I achieved it but was extremely tired working 12 or 14 hour days .
I've now found a job near the beach for 8 hour days and with only a 10 min commute several £1000's less a year but recovery has helped me focus on what i need as opposed to what is discretionary about the time of my life .
living in a low cost of living area will really help take the pressure off ..
I hope you find the right balance for you , the husband will get used to it after a few weeks and if you'd be happier then it's all for the good
take care , m