Hey Shelliszoo,
So your situation is quite similar to mine except my AH returns next week. All we can do is hope, however - my AH knows he has to be actively seeking recovery as I will not support him ducking out of meetings/excuses/demands/******** basically. It's a truly awful situation but he has to be serious, you've got to reach a point where you know you are powerless over addiction and any consequences of his drinking is HIS choice not yours. Praying/hoping for his recovery. Keep well and much love.