In the long run, in the short run...I know how difficult it is to accept that someone is not in the place you want them to be, or that you think they should be. He has the right to recover or not recover on his own timeline. I had to stop handing over the reins of my life to other people and the choices they make. We don't know the future. There's nothing to say this man doesn't recover someday and you find your way back to each other, but in the meantime, you have to consider what staying is costing you.