oh hon, I am so sorry, I have felt the same way. Like he gets out of detox and then all is well? Mine is sober because he wears an anklet, and if it tests positive he goes to jail. He doesn't talk about the past ( his drinking) and how dare I bring it up?! the past is the past, I guess we are just supposed to forget and forgive all the crappy things they did because they are "sober" now and all is good again. He acts like because he is ok, that the rest of us should be over it. UGH!! I hated it, I banged my head against the wall so many times with him over it. I am glad to be done. I am so sorry