OK, I'll weigh in. For the purpose of this opinion, I think you can divide people up into three groups: non-alcoholics, recovering, and alcoholics.
Alcoholics want you to drink with them.
Recovering just want to not drink.
Non-alcoholics don't care unless their lives are inflicted on by alcoholics.
Now when these circles overlap you get interesting things.
I think the one we're talking about is when non-alcoholics are faced with recovering alcoholics. Better to say recovered. When one of us is around drinking, it's a non-issue. We don't want a drink, we don't care if they drink, and most importantly: we don't preach.
Non-drinking people find out it can be normal to just. not. drink.
From us. Amazing, huh.