K, thanks for posting. You are indeed like many of us here with similar habits. You will get great support from this site.
I am five days away from 90 days sober. I have two kids a concerned wife also. I know that my health has suffered since my alcohol consumption increased in my late 30's. I am 40 now.
Only you can tell if you have a problem. One thing I will say is this. Putting a time limit on it doesn't help you. 85 days in and I feel like I deserve a drink for my fortitude and had an especially tough time this weekend while my wife was 'bored because she was drinking alone'. I look at my kids and think of what I am sacrificing to feel good (also known as getting high). That has been enough to keep me sober.
Congrats on coming here. I wish you the best of luck from here on.
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