Don't apologize. It wasn't bad forum etiquette. Even the 13 traits listed isnt quite right. I believe The Laundry List actually has 14 items. If memory serves I identified with 12 out of 14. The ones I didn't identify with didn't bother me. What mattered to me was that what I saw as defects on my part were actually a result of poor parenting. They weren't my fault. I wasn't merely a defective person. I had been harmed by a bad upbringing. I was grateful.
Try not to get caught up in what doesn't resonate and instead embrace what does.