I have a close friend where our relationship is now less close. He hangs out with my estranged siblings like ALL the time (several times a week). I don't think he does much else with his time.
I've tried to keep in contact with him, but he will often not return a phone call. Not respond to an e-mail, etc.
I called him and ended up leaving a message about my wife's pregnancy (we've been trying for almost 5 years - and needed IVF for it to happen - a long and painful process).
THat was last monday. He hasn't responded since then.
Concerning another friend from high school that I have been spending way more time with recently (he's super nice to my wife and they get along fine) - He called me back immediately and wished us both well. He mentioned that it was exciting given how much my wife had been struggling with it for years. It was the kind of stuff I would think a trusted, supportive, close friend would say.
I think I'm going NC with the close friend that didn't respond to my pregnancy announcement. At least, I will not be making any effort to contact him. If he calls or e-mails, I will probably ask if he had received my pregnancy announcement because I hadn't heard from him.
Is a relationship like this with so much non-communication and withdrawal worth the effort? I mean, I'm excited to have a BABY DAUGHTER, and he has nothing to say? Seriously?
