It’s been my experience that there is never a good time to speak with an alcoholic about their drinking. One misconception we often have is, waiting until they have not consumed alcohol thinking we are talking to a sober human being when in fact we are still very much dealing with an alcohol soaked brain.
I think understanding the objective of “the talk” should be the first part of any plan. What is your husband trying to accomplish with “the talk”? What boundaries is your husband ready to set?
I think without us having a real plan along with real expectations and boundaries ready to be put into place we are setting ourselves up for disappointment.