Originally Posted by
ladyscribbler 
I always got a lot of anger and blame shifting. My ex would also go on the attack and say something like, "Oh, are we talking about everyone's flaws now? Well you're fat, ugly, a b-, etc." if I brought up his drinking.
Yes, this... "well what about the things that YOU have done?!" he would say.
And then launch into a tirade about all the things I have done to drive him to drink... or if I happened to be on his good side that day then he would go into all the ways his parents wronged him, my parents, his past employers, pretty much anyone and anything but him.