Stay Strong ... no new contact no new hurts ! Dandylion has written this several times. I used to think of it literally. No new contact and my xabf could not hurt me again with words. But now I have figured out , it's not about my xabf , it is about me. If I have no new contact then I have nothing new to hurt myself over , no obsessing about what I said , no more hurt that he didn't say or do what I was hoping he would, no more fear of is he going to call me? , worringing if it ok for me to call , will I look needy if I call ect ect ect ....