Talking to the A? Your experience
My A is my husbands mom. Last night he told me he was ready to talk to her about her drinking. I just listened to what he had to say and tried not to 'anticipate' future problems. Right now the relatioship is distant at best. He would like more connection and involvement. However...sober. I'll support him. I have a daughter and he deceided the next visit he will meet with her alone while my daughter and I are not there, and I agree.
It's been my experience and understanding that talking with an A rarely changes things, they just hide it better. Or keep on keeping on. She has never sought recovery, she works, keeps up appearances so it seems like she 'doesn't have a problem' (functional alcoholic). What has been other experience when talking to an A about their drinking? I am in Alanon.