Originally Posted by
j2014 
Part of me feels like it's time to call it quits and that perhaps he needs to feel a devastating consequence like that.
I'm not sure if you should call it quits, but if you do, I think it's very important to do it for yourself. In my opinion, you should not call it quits in hope that he will feel a specific consequence.
I'm sorry that you are going through this and the pain that you are feeling.