I so can understand this. I know exactly what it is like to be given the third degree for going out. AH didn't go out and party like yours, but he certainly let me know he thought I was cheating all over the place. It is so hurtful and so ridiculous. You sound really at peace with it, though, and more just fed up than hurt... That is GOOD. After a while I felt the same way... More disgusted and just exhausted with the ********. I almost found some of the crap to be comical sometimes.
You just keep doing what you're doing and keep thinking about the future. You are going places. I KNOW you are!
Hugs