Originally Posted by
Jeni26 
My husband has never set foot in an AA meeting and says he never will. He doesn't believe he's an alkie...just someone who gets himself into a bit of a mess when he drinks. He doesn't believe I am one either.
He's happy for me to attend meetings if I want to. And yes...I definitely DO blame myself for this. If I hadn't have picked up, he wouldn't have either.
Um you don't know that. If he was not in a recovery program then the chances that he would relapse were very, very high.
If your choice to drink is why he chose to drink you need to think again. Because if that were true, if you were indeed that powerful, then when you chose to stop he would have stopped too.
Blaming yourself is going to start a cycle that will only intensify the situation. Guilt is a terrible decision maker.
It sounds like you need to lay down some boundaries for yourself. Sorry for this situation it sounds like you have a great marriage minus the alcohol.