Originally Posted by
ajarlson 
I'm nervous because I sent my daughter a message saying whatever she chose to do I would support her decision. And she didn't message me back. The rational part says she's just busy, she isn't mad, the irrational part wants to scream because she hates this part of our family so much that she very much could indeed be angry at me.
Those people are not your monkeys and not your circus. You might feel like you're guilty by association, but you're not. If your daughter has good boundaries and a clear head on her shoulders (which I bet she does), then she wouldn't blame you for drama you had no direct part in whatsoever.
I'm so sorry for this mess, though. Makes me feel icky just thinking about it. All that manipulation and triangulation. Yuck!